Last week I went to my kids school during the day to have lunch with them. They are triplets, all in the same class and have a 25 minute break to eat. I don’t get the opportunity very often but I love to bring them lunch and sit with them when I can. It doesn’t hurt that they treat me like a celebrity and love it just as much as I do. I am aware that there will come a time when they will not be excited to see me at school, so I’ll take this opportunity while I have it!
I’m always so worried about their behavior. Are they being nice? Do they help others? Do they fight with each other? I’m starting to realize that they act at least 800% better when I’m NOT around, so I was curious to see how it would go.
Last week Lily told me that a student in her class told her “he hated her”. She didn’t appear too upset about it, and kind of shrugged it off. I was really curious to what the situation was, but she said she didn’t know why he would say that. (mmmhmmm.) The kids have mentioned this student a few times, saying that he was “mean” and got in trouble a lot. When the kids talk about a student like that, I always tell them to be extra nice to those people- they need it the most. But I can’t say I wasn’t curious to meet him.
I waited outside the lunch room because I wasn’t sure what table to sit at. Once the kids got in there, my kids ran over to me and we grabbed a table. Apparently my kids are the only ones that bring their own lunches because the rest of the class went to the cafeteria line to get “hot lunch”. (That’s another post). Anyway, as they started to filter out, Lily’s BFF came to sit with us, and there was one more open seat. The rest of the kids filled in the space in the 3 remaining tables, and then I saw this boy walking from table to table. I had a pretty good idea that this was the “mean kid” that told Lily he hated her. He had his back to me so I couldn’t hear what he said, but it was clear as day, the other kids were shaking their heads and pointing to other tables as he approached. It was like the scene from Forrest Gump on the bus. I looked at Cameron and said, “why don’t we ask him to sit with us?” and he thankfully, did not hesitate to do so.
He got up and ran over to the boy, who happily cam over to sit with us. Everything was cool. The girls joked around, Cameron and his new buddy did a puzzle (that cam with his Subway lunch) together, and it was a great little lunch. When it was over, Ben was a gentleman and took his (girl) friend’s lunch tray up to the trash area. I was a proud mom. So many times I see how they behave at home and think I am doing an awful, terrible job as a mother. I wonder how this happened. I’m starting to realize that kids have a “home” behavior and a “non-home” behavior. I’m not sure if that makes it any better, but I am glad they they generally seem to behave kindly and respectfully in public. As for the “mean” boy, I think he just needs a friend, and I think my kids are starting to understand that too.